Dating - A Vocation?

Dating - a strange phenomenon today - has taken on a new meaning for some dedicated Christians. Through conversations with friends I have become aware of some strange motivations for dating. It's important to understand how the world of dating is exercised for individuals in college. The basics are that there is no "dating". You meet someone, go to lunch with them, have dinner with them, study together, realize you like each other and decide to "date", but really you jump into a relationship. All of  a sudden, instead of taking time to get to know this person through various interesting encounters, you spend all your time with them because they have become engrained into your daily schedule. Not that spending time with a significant other isn't important; however, you must remain aware of how we are called to answer a vocation to marriage. Why should Catholic's date, and what should be there motivation?

I want to share a story:

Today at lunch I was sitting with a good friend who shared that she was interested in getting this boy, let's call him James, to ask her out. She was seeking guidance from me and another male involved in the conversation. She expressed that the important "faith" aspect was missing from his qualities. Instead of saying, I want to be friends with him and encourage him to come with me to Church, the statement was more like: By dating I want to bring him the truth revealed through Jesus Christ. Now, this is not bad, it should always be our goal to bring Christ to people through our actions and words. However, as Catholics, we are called to experience dating as a preparation for marriage. If we are not willing to marry a non-catholic, then dating one isn't proper preparation. In my opinion, I feel that strong friendship and a good effort at sharing faith and your motivation for living a Catholic life is the more appropriate response to this situation.

I'm hoping that my friend prays over this decision and understands that yes, God had brought you into this persons life for a reason, but also realize the beauty of dating and learning about other people. Don't enter into a friendship or potential dating opportunity with the mindset of already changing a person. Your lack of appreciation for who they are and the choices they could prevent a solid friendship. Be open to differences and be aware that we are meant to struggle with faith and acceptance of God's will.